Do you know that keeping your anger in check is good for your health?
People who manage their anger get sick less often, and feel better emotionally-for real! Anger is a natural emotion but sometimes anger can lead to behavior that is out of control. It may even feel like the anger is controlling you. Have you ever had this happen to you? If so, you’re not alone. Many teens have trouble managing their anger.
Why should I control my anger?
Even at a young age, having difficulty controlling your anger makes your body more likely to have physical problems that can occur now or later. This happens because your mind and your body are connected! These feelings can actually put stress on your body which can lead to medical problems such as:
Having problems with managing your anger can also increase your risk for developing emotional issues such as:
Teenagers who have trouble managing their anger often have fewer friends, behave in more negative ways, and receive lower grades in school. Haven’t had any of these issues yet? You are lucky. Don’t wait! The time is right for you to learn how to control your anger and prevent problems in the future.
How can I tell if I’m getting too angry?
Your body has a few ways of letting you know when you are getting too angry. Some common feelings may include:
What are some ways I can learn to control my temper?
The best way to control your temper depends on you! There is no quick fix. Every person needs to take time to think about what works for him or her.
Here are some helpful ideas:
You may feel anxious when you first try to take control of your temper. This is normal! Take time beforehand to plan ways to handle these feelings. The earlier you notice yourself becoming angry the more chance you have to stop your anger from getting out of control.
Is there anything I can do to relax when I’m feeling so angry?
Yes! Every one of us can find effective ways to calm down. Relaxation techniques work by helping calm us. When we are calm, our bodies relax, and physical problems brought on by anger such as a headache, usually disappear. Try the following techniques to help you relax:
What do I do with all the anger inside?
Find a safe way to express it! There are many safe ways to express your anger. Here are a few ideas:
Controlling your temper is hard at first!
When you slip up, give yourself a break but take responsibility for how you acted and how it affected other people. A useful way to do this is to apologize. “I’m sorry” is a powerful phrase that can help do damage control!
What else should I know about anger?
In thinking about anger, it is important to remember that it is usually a secondary emotion. The underlying emotion is more likely to be rejection, fear, failure, frustration or sadness. This underlying emotion needs to be expressed and resolved for a person to heal from anger.
Professional counseling can help you discover and address the sources and triggers of your anger. Counseling can help you address the underlying feelings of hurt, fear and sadness, so you are able to make decisions about what to do with your feelings instead of letting them overtake you.
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